hello hoop friends!
I had my very first paid performance over the weekend. and me and my 2 other hooper friends each got a small stage(the size of a table)..and they decked the place out with hooper art. I was so excited to get on stage and do my thing, when i noticed a guy...he pulled up a chair and was objectifying my friend like she was some kind of stripper. im surprised he didnt pull out some 1$ bills the way he was creeping.. we were fully clothed..but since its summer we had shorts on and sports bra's..showing a lil skin..but i didnt think we were putting thaat kind of image out.. i guess what im trying to say is.. its hard to get real respect as a hooper sometimes..no matter how hard you try not to be sexy and just show off some killer tricks...all those perv guys see is a piece of ass on stage. has anyone here had similar experiences? any advise on keeping the creeps away? maby next time ill hoop in a sweat pants :-)
I was light-up hoopin @ AllGood, an older guy actually tried to hand me four ones and flashed me 2 fifty dollar bills... told me he wanted a "private show"....Gross, i was in tank top and shorts! HOOP-SPACE you freak!!!
I had a guy try and kiss me once. I think the best thing to do is to pretend they are not there when you cant move. They want you to look at them. Creeps
this has to be one of my biggest pet peaves, i don't perform but even if i go to a park, there are a lot of drinkers where i live and i always have drunk old men asking to use my hoop and watching me.
i don't have any suggestions for you because covering up too much could make it hard to grip...
hm, good luck!
I had a guy ask me to marry him. So creepy xD
People have all sorts of motivations for watching, and some of them are sexual or deviant or obsessive. Being the unwilling object of those thoughts can be unnerving and it happens no matter what you are wearing. Hoop in a floor-length gypsy skirt and a sweater and it will incite fantasies in someone, I assure you.
Your choices on what to do vary depending on the environment and the creeper. On the tiny go-go hoop stage, or in any other performance situation, you're going to have to do your best to put it out of your mind. If something happens after the show, then you can choose to react. But while performing, perform for the people who adore you. Even the creeps.
The sick thing is, they think you're doing it for them. So they think you want them near. They have this fantasy that no matter how old they are, young attractive women will still want them. Men are all the same. No matter what age.
hooping is just sexy, its as simple as that. I have definitely had my boyfriend tell me how good Ive looked hoopin before. You gotta realize you're workin those hips and thangs ;] lol
In my experience anytime I'm doing something unusual I attract attention of all kinds, positive, negative, and curious. Most is positive and curious, but those few negatives sure stand out.
I like how the hoop itself functions as a physical boundary. I have had drunk guys try to approach me and rebound lightly off the spinning hoop. It's been perfect because it's enough to deter them but not enough to piss them off, y'know?
Also the nice thing about drawing a lot of attention: other people are watching too. So if a guy tries to get up in my space and I call him on it, others are paying attention and can help (or call for help) better than if I was alone somewhere with that person. So I remember I'm not alone, I'm prepared to speak up early and loudly if someone physically invades my boundaries, and other than that I concentrate on the hoop and the feelings and the music. Blocking out unwanted attention is counterintuitive for me, instinct screams beware, but with practice and self-reassurance that I'm not alone (and if I am, I leave pretty quick!), it gets easier.