Don't over think about what your doing or want to do, just do it. That's kind of how finding your flow is. It's not about thinking out every move but just moving with what you remember and having fun. Also I couldn't help to notice a girl jamming in the background of the second video without a hoop, lots of people go to festivals for the reason that no one cares if you can dance everyone just wants to have fun so don't be nervous or embarrassed let you hoopers flag fly and do whatever your comfortable with. I find once I'm not worried with thinking about what to do next and just doing you'll be surprised with the tricks you can put together.
For a more direct way of learning to put tricks together you could try the Bag o' Tricks method. Write down all the tricks you know like: waist hooping,chest hooping, vortex, helicopter, one leg hooping, vertical hooping etc. on scraps of paper. Then place those scraps in a plastic bag, shake it up and pull out a couple of tricks. Then practice putting those tricks together. It's really fun and a great personal challenge. I used this method by slowly adding on tricks, I started with 3 tricks then after practicing those for a song or two I'd put them to the side and then pull 4 different tricks. After a hour of practice I would place all the tricks back in the bag and try to hoop not thinking about what I want to do but just letting go and going with my flow.
I cant see the first video, but in the second one you were doing things right until you mess up the last move, got mad and stoped taping and hooping. I think that this is the worst thing you can do! There is nothing wrong with mistakes. Keep going is the only thing that is going to make you better. :) Dont be so hard on yourself!!
Lets say that you are hooping in public, make a mistake and immediatly judge yourself. From this point on, you will constantly think about what you are doing wrong and things wont get any better. Being hard on oneself makes us feel nervous, afraid and blocked.
But instead, if you are hooping in public, make a mistake and repeat the move and nail it or immediatly do something really cool or flashy, you will feel confident enough to keep on hooping and do all the amazing thing you can do.
Just forget about where you are and people that are watching and hoop for yourself. Im working on this too.
When ever people are "casually watching" I do awesome things but the moment someone asks me to perform, I panic.
Its normal, just dont let this ruin your experience or prevent you from doing what you love. :)
Performance anxiety sharred by performers and athletes alike. The only advice I can give is the usual crud. I'm one of the lucky few who doesn't get embarrassed by having others around.
That said.... try a blind fold? :-(
My heart goes out to you. You will figure out a way around this! <3