I just recently asked the same question! Look at some of the replies I got some of them are very insightful :)
Coming from a hooper with absolutely NO dance background, my story goes something like this:
After practicing tricks for 3 hours everyday, 4 days a week, I got good at just doing tricks. I had no dance background and nothing to incorporate into the tricks... I felt I had to flow from one thing to another and I was constantly thinking "what am I gonna do next?" Then I started listening to different styles of music and allowing myself to "let go." I explored my space both inside and outside of the hoop and forgot about everyone else around me. Focus internally on how your body is feeling and the connection you have with the hoop. Sooner or later, after some experimentation, I got to the point where I was just doing what felt good to my body. Where did my limbs want to move next? I just let it happen...I escaped to a place where my thinking brain released and my body took over. I hope this story helps, if you have any other questions, you can message me:) Happy flowing!
You really need to practice with eyes closed, that's the only advice I can give to someone asking this question. You'll have your days when you're starting to feel it, and then suddenly it'll be gone. just keep trying.
thank you all for the helpful and insightful words! it is greatly appreciated!!! *Peace