well im in the 9th grade in high school and my school has an extra curricular activity called circus; where they teach you juggling climbing flips flexibility an stuff. ive been for about 20 weeks and me and my best friend arethe ONLY hoopers there. recently we got a new teacher and students and the teacher wants us to teach them hooping but we told her that we dont want to teach anyone because we figured out how to do all the tricks by ourselves ..
there is also another feeling i have about not wanting anyone else to do it.its cause i cant dance and basicly everyone else in the 9th grade does the other extra curriculum dance activity and when every people look down o me becauseof that i always tell myself that i can do things they wouldnt evn think of(because they dont know about hooping at all) and if i teach the others how to do it , they will teach their friends and i wont feel good about myself.... how do i tell the teacher i cant teach anyone and can u also please post excuses or something lol
I think you should take this oppurtunity and look at it in a different light. If you teach the students, you become a leader. You will be the reason everyone else has learned. You're thinking your self confidence will deflate, but I think it would be the opposite. There can be nothing better for your self confidence than seeing an entire group of people laugh and have fun and know you are the reason for it. Besides, you already know more tricks than them. When they are learning the basics, you'll be working on challenging tricks they can only dream of doing!
You could even create your school's own hooping family tree. Start with you and your best friend at the top, then everyone you teach below you. No one will ever be able to top you and your friend, because you taught yourselves. You started the tree.
You can always set up a trial run. Try teaching for 3 weeks. If you don't like it after that time, you can stop. But you just might find that you like teaching others and spreading the hoop love. : )
one of the greatest things that i've gotten out of the hooping community is everyone's willingness to share and teach and to be on this journey together. one thing that has constantly humbled me is how astounding hoopers are so ready and willing to share their insights and tips and tricks. it's emboldening and it is empowering.
high school is rough and i have no doubt that it's great to have something that you and one other person excel at, but you should use this opportunity to grow into a mentor...and that is a really wonderful thing. these kids will look to you as a teacher, someone who helped them grow, and that's way more fulfilling than just being better than someone at something.
plus, you all can learn from each other. no two hoopers have identical styles, and that's another thing that makes hooping so excellent, we all learn from each other.
so i say try to shed some of the ego and try to embrace this opportunity.
I agree with what everyone else has said. Especially Bridget. In high school you (not specifically you.. Just in general) are trying so hard to find your niche and identity. So it's normal to feel some anxiety about so many others becoming interested in a unique thing you do. But remember that other hooping hooping doesn't take anything away from you. Here's a quote that speaks to this situation, I hope it helps:
Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.
So, I am on a hoop making journey, and after I get good at this, My daughter and I are going to donate some hoops to her school. She is the only hooper in the entire school, and we thought this would be a good way to help her continue hooping during the winter months and also spread the joy of the circle to others. And it would give her a chance to teach others and become a mentor. An awesome charactieristic I want to instill in my child. She loves the idea of sharing our hoops, and always welcomes others to hoop with us when we are out hooping.
She is 9 years old and will be the the 4th grade when we accomplish this. She has never mentioned to me any fear of it taking away from her, but only express the awesomeness of everyone hooping with her hoops. I just wanted to share this perspective with you. You should embrass your talents and share them freely. Good luck creating your own style of hooping
Life is not about finding yourself, Life is about creating yourself ~George Bernard Shaw
This is a big subject and entirely a personal choice. I am not entirely sure why you are reluctant to teach hooping to your class. I can fill in the blanks and see why you are hesitant... But if you don't want to for whatever reason right now, you don't have to. It is your choice. Whatever motive you base your choice on, it is fine. Maybe a few years from now, you might think, "Perhaps I should have taught hooping to that class because...." Or you can also feel glad that you didn't because it didn't feel right to you at the time.
Also: you can dance! You are a dancer. As much as I love watching ballet and other high academy forms, dance is as intrinsic to human nature as language, as music. Dance is communication. Just find your form of communication. Cross-culturally, everyone dances. You may not be a "jazz dancer" or whatever, but you are a dancer. All good dancing originates from the spirit.
First and foremost, respect yourself and your feelings. There may be consequences, there are always consequences, but listen to your heart and just know whatever you choose is right for you, right now.
NB: When I was growing up, personally and I don't mean this as an afront to the advice above, which is also so very true and I wholeheartedly believe, I was taught a lot about what I "should" do. I was never really encourage to embrace my own feelings and instincts, but what I should do. It was more about fitting in with society than fitting in with myself.
I really love the Shaw quote, that is very true