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ModPermalink Reply by Martika* of MartikasMysticDesign on August 17, 2012 at 12:15pm

She may see it as her day in the spot light and that you will take that away from her. She may feel a little intimated by your hooping and to have all her family and friends she how good her little sister is may she make feel embarrassed or out shined. I would respect her wishes and not bring the hoop to the wedding or at least leave them in the car till later then ask her again if it's ok for you to present to her and her new husband a routine you put together just for them. If she doesn't want you to do a routine then respect her wedding day and wishes. Maybe ask if it's ok if you do it on the side anyway out of the main view of everyone. 

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Permalink Reply by Spooky Mermaid on August 17, 2012 at 12:30pm

Honestly it would be very selfish to just do it anyways. It's your sisters wedding and it's her day! I think you should respect her and leave the hoop at home! She's probably being a little rude to you because she's stressed over the wedding, after the wedding I'm sure she'll probably mellow out. When my sister got married she was a huge emotional wreck and would yell at everyone for anything. I wouldn't take it to heart.

Plus you could always hoop at your own wedding!

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StudentPermalink Reply by Danielle Starshine on August 17, 2012 at 1:39pm

I wouldn't take it personally. The rudeness is probably due to the stress of planning her wedding. When people are rude or hostile to you, it is because they are dealing with personal issues, not because they just plain don't like you. It is her special day and you should respect that.

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StudentPermalink Reply by Ayla Hammons on August 17, 2012 at 9:20pm

:) I bet ince she sees it she'll be really touched. I want to do a hoop dance for my husband and mommy.

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StudentPermalink Reply by Kaddie Cadillac Barnard on August 17, 2012 at 8:50pm

I think it would have to be what the bride wanted of course because it is her special day. I personally just got married July 22 and I had my led hoop and was dancing with it all night and I had a few spares for the guests to play with as well. For the more conservative guests they thought it was amazing because they never had seen anything like it before and it got people wanting to try. Even Grandpa got up there a few times! I am no traditional bride by any means so I guess this was somewhat expected. (My dress had slow changing LED's in the bustle and in the neckline which I did myself so I guess people weren't so surprised lol) But Like I said what is amazing to some might not be amazing to others! In the end it is what your sister wants. 

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StudentPermalink Reply by Ayla Hammons on August 17, 2012 at 9:21pm

I didn't mean to delete my comment >.< oh well

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Permalink Reply by Natasha Johnson on August 18, 2012 at 10:58am

hello, i think a good idea would be to make a beautiful video of you hooping to give to them as a gift. me personally i like the idea of hooping at the wedding. im still a newbie to hooping but i already like the idea of having a hooping performance at my vow refreshing ceremony when i have one. but if thats what the bride wants and you still want to show her you love her the way you can. video it. and give it to her in a pretty case and wrap it up as a gift. who knows. if you give it to her early she may even want to play it at the wedding

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StudentPermalink Reply by Danielle Starshine on August 18, 2012 at 8:35pm

i agreee you should make a nice video...edit it to make it look all fancy..maybe some black and white?

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StudentPermalink Reply by MaisieHoops of *HulaHoopers.ca* on August 19, 2012 at 8:02pm

I was thinking of something similar... but perhaps setting up a sister "dinner date" and show her the dance you prepared for her.  That would likely be really touching to her.  

I understand how sisters can be crazy at weddings though.  Both my little sis's are married and my one sister would not let me wear my glasses (I'm near sighted) to her wedding because she didn't want me to ruin her pictures.... So I couldn't see much all night....

However, our family tradition is for the older sibling to dance a silly dance at the wedding if they are not married.  I didn't want to dance, so my sister let me hoop.  It was tons of fun!  I even passed the hoop off to my youngest sis as she hooped a bit at the time too.  The best part was I got to change into "hooping" clothes and take off the awful pink dress that I was forced to buy... lol  

I hope it goes well.  I gave in to everything my sisters wanted because it was much easier that way.  

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Permalink Reply by Hillary on September 1, 2012 at 8:48pm

That's a GREAT idea!

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Permalink Reply by Alice Robins on August 18, 2012 at 10:09pm

if it helps, my sister didn't even want me to wear my grandfather's old watch for her wedding, and despite the dress covering my feet, she refused to allow me to wear my new converse even though they were also in the color scheme. I went with it because whenever it's my turn I can do whatever I want myself which will probably include comfortable shoes XD

People had some good ideas though, especially that video one. keeps within her wishes, while still presenting it. [I did wear the watch on my ankle though.. it'd only been months since he passed so I kinda felt more attached to ze watch.]

I've never seen hooping at a wedding before.. but I can see how if a bride/groom want that.. it could be fun!

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StudentPermalink Reply by Kacie Knight on August 19, 2012 at 8:44pm

I was also going to suggest a video wedding present. I wouldn't have wanted someone to do a hoop performance for me at my wedding, even though I hoop. It just wouldn't fit with the flow of the evening very well. It's also really tough when people ask to participate and do something in your wedding when you already have it all planned out and an idea you want to do in your head. 

Do bring your hoop, but leave it in the car at the wedding and see if there is room and if it feels right, ask if you can jam. Maybe bring extras for people to play with, but don't be offended if she says no. It's her day and as her sister, even if you are not getting along perfectly, you should be supportive. 

My sister was my MC at  my wedding. Her boyfriend of 7 years broke up with her on the phone while we were having hair and makeup done the morning of my wedding. She didn't tell me until after the reception. She was in so much pain, but didn't want to take away from the specialness of my day, so she hid her frustration and tears and allowed us to have our perfect day. 

I did, however have many hoops at my wedding and it was awesome ;)

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