Hello everyone, well My older sister is getting married.
She is having A more tradinal wedding, but she is stil having A reception and A DJ Afterwards...
I asked her if I could perform A beautiful peace for her after the wedding with my LED hula hoop.. She told me no, and that its A more "tradinial" wedding...
Okay I get that... but I am her little sister, Shes only getting married once "Hopfully" lol and my Little sister already got married.
Is hooping at a wedding bad?
I think that If I am dedicating the dance to her and her husband its beautful, and classy.. She doesn't seem to think so...
I personally think shes just doing it because we don't get along all of the time.. but I really want to do something for her wedding.. and hooping is what I am good at...
I was thinking of not telling her, and bringing my hoop anyways, and just getting up there, making A speach, and telling her that I care and lover her, and this is My way of showing her that I wish her all the best of luck in her new love and marriage...
So what are your views on it??
should I respect her Wishes?
or should I be sneeky?
I think that Everyone would LOVE it..
I think she just isn't used to Hula hoopers, Shes never seen one in person, or experenced what it can bring onto your heart...
So please share your thoughts!!!!!!!!
She may see it as her day in the spot light and that you will take that away from her. She may feel a little intimated by your hooping and to have all her family and friends she how good her little sister is may she make feel embarrassed or out shined. I would respect her wishes and not bring the hoop to the wedding or at least leave them in the car till later then ask her again if it's ok for you to present to her and her new husband a routine you put together just for them. If she doesn't want you to do a routine then respect her wedding day and wishes. Maybe ask if it's ok if you do it on the side anyway out of the main view of everyone.
Honestly it would be very selfish to just do it anyways. It's your sisters wedding and it's her day! I think you should respect her and leave the hoop at home! She's probably being a little rude to you because she's stressed over the wedding, after the wedding I'm sure she'll probably mellow out. When my sister got married she was a huge emotional wreck and would yell at everyone for anything. I wouldn't take it to heart.
Plus you could always hoop at your own wedding!
I wouldn't take it personally. The rudeness is probably due to the stress of planning her wedding. When people are rude or hostile to you, it is because they are dealing with personal issues, not because they just plain don't like you. It is her special day and you should respect that.
I think it would have to be what the bride wanted of course because it is her special day. I personally just got married July 22 and I had my led hoop and was dancing with it all night and I had a few spares for the guests to play with as well. For the more conservative guests they thought it was amazing because they never had seen anything like it before and it got people wanting to try. Even Grandpa got up there a few times! I am no traditional bride by any means so I guess this was somewhat expected. (My dress had slow changing LED's in the bustle and in the neckline which I did myself so I guess people weren't so surprised lol) But Like I said what is amazing to some might not be amazing to others! In the end it is what your sister wants.
hello, i think a good idea would be to make a beautiful video of you hooping to give to them as a gift. me personally i like the idea of hooping at the wedding. im still a newbie to hooping but i already like the idea of having a hooping performance at my vow refreshing ceremony when i have one. but if thats what the bride wants and you still want to show her you love her the way you can. video it. and give it to her in a pretty case and wrap it up as a gift. who knows. if you give it to her early she may even want to play it at the wedding
i agreee you should make a nice video...edit it to make it look all fancy..maybe some black and white?
I was thinking of something similar... but perhaps setting up a sister "dinner date" and show her the dance you prepared for her. That would likely be really touching to her.
I understand how sisters can be crazy at weddings though. Both my little sis's are married and my one sister would not let me wear my glasses (I'm near sighted) to her wedding because she didn't want me to ruin her pictures.... So I couldn't see much all night....
However, our family tradition is for the older sibling to dance a silly dance at the wedding if they are not married. I didn't want to dance, so my sister let me hoop. It was tons of fun! I even passed the hoop off to my youngest sis as she hooped a bit at the time too. The best part was I got to change into "hooping" clothes and take off the awful pink dress that I was forced to buy... lol
I hope it goes well. I gave in to everything my sisters wanted because it was much easier that way.
That's a GREAT idea!
if it helps, my sister didn't even want me to wear my grandfather's old watch for her wedding, and despite the dress covering my feet, she refused to allow me to wear my new converse even though they were also in the color scheme. I went with it because whenever it's my turn I can do whatever I want myself which will probably include comfortable shoes XD
People had some good ideas though, especially that video one. keeps within her wishes, while still presenting it. [I did wear the watch on my ankle though.. it'd only been months since he passed so I kinda felt more attached to ze watch.]
I've never seen hooping at a wedding before.. but I can see how if a bride/groom want that.. it could be fun!
I was also going to suggest a video wedding present. I wouldn't have wanted someone to do a hoop performance for me at my wedding, even though I hoop. It just wouldn't fit with the flow of the evening very well. It's also really tough when people ask to participate and do something in your wedding when you already have it all planned out and an idea you want to do in your head.
Do bring your hoop, but leave it in the car at the wedding and see if there is room and if it feels right, ask if you can jam. Maybe bring extras for people to play with, but don't be offended if she says no. It's her day and as her sister, even if you are not getting along perfectly, you should be supportive.
My sister was my MC at my wedding. Her boyfriend of 7 years broke up with her on the phone while we were having hair and makeup done the morning of my wedding. She didn't tell me until after the reception. She was in so much pain, but didn't want to take away from the specialness of my day, so she hid her frustration and tears and allowed us to have our perfect day.
I did, however have many hoops at my wedding and it was awesome ;)