Not to be rude but that is not what you wear to an upscale event. If your not being paid I understand not going all out but I'd still avoid wearing that.
I think some belly dancer scarves over some leggings with cute tops would be very appropriate and upscale-ish, plus adorable!
I am sure you'll look fine. It sounds like she just doesn't want it to look too "loud".
PS. what a fun opportunity!!! Have a great time!
instead of jeans could you wear black leggings and a tee shirt dress or maybe yoga pants?
I think jeans with a "nice" tee would be great :) your right you don't want to be boring, something with some waist shaping and maybe some beading or embroidery
jeans sound awful to hoop in! LOL depends on what you're doing i suppose. Jeans make me feel stifffff and restricting. Try youtube-ing men who are well-known hoopers/poi spinners/ etc. and observe what they're wearing. then from there you can kinda match him with a "feminine" touch? thrift stores and vintage shops are a good place to start looking and sometimes ONE peice of clothing can make things you already have fabulous. yoga clothing is the most cozy too hoop in in my opinion....uggh jeans...*cringe* hahaha
I think having something to look at for inspiration is the best. I believe Safire is a prime example of business performance dress or classy costumes. Yes avoid tye dye,leg warmers, t-shirts, jeans,neon colors, and coin belts (unless coin belts are fitting the theme of event.) Items you would wear to a festival or rave basically.Think of what you could wear to a dinner party but circus themed.
Ahhhh, formal circus attire, how I love thee.