Here's something I learned in track:
I ran the 300 meter hurdle race (among other things) and I would hyperventilate before the race. And then I won. I think that a little bit of stress is a good thing, because it lets you know that you'll have to kick ass very soon, and gives you the needed adrenaline.
Of course you don't want too much stress, so here's something else I learned at track:
After the race was over and I was done kicking ass, I was, you know, completely winded, felt like I wanted to lay down and die. So what could I do? nothing. Sooner or later I'd regain my breath, and in the meantime I just decided to accept the fact that I felt horrible and acknowledge that I'll eventually feel better.
So, if you tell yourself that you'll be done soon, that test will be over tomorrow and you'll feel fine, you may be able to chill out a little. :D
Hope that helps!
i hoop it all away now..i have had anxiety for years and hooping just takes it all away.
I also, have been having these problems. In fact, they are so similar to yours it sounds, it blows my mind. Minus the school part though. I mostly get anxious or stressed from day to day interactions with people, and even though I used to be a social butterfly, I am now a complete loner, although I do try to reach out of my comfort zone to hang out with people but usually feel awkward and I obviously have a ranting problem. I do, however feel things changing for me every day almost like I am a little more whole every day. But some days are worse than others.
I have a manic depressive disorder with anxiety, and do not take meds. I really want to be able to live life without them, that is my ultimate goal. My anxiety causes me to push away people around me all the time.
People say, 'just be happy' but I think sometimes when you actually have a chemical inbalance in your brain it might be a little less black and white than that.
Thank you for posting this! Everyone's replies have been great to read! I had been dealing with horrible anxiety for the past few years, a constant worrier and over-analyzer - but just recently I have succeeded in controlling it a bit. Being a new mother and a senior in college stressed me out incredibly, yet helped me to find techniques that help...
-Being prepared! Having things done ahead of time for school, making sure I have everything with me when I go out with my daughter... helped me to feel a little more in control of situations.
-Singing! - I sang my daughter to sleep and just taking that time with her just us two when I sing to her and watch her drift off to sleep reduced so much stress in my life- I would suggest if you don't have children- sing to yourself, your cat, your fish your dresser whatever ! just belt it!
-Breathe!!! I know this one was said a few times but just breathing is a HUGE help for my anxiety. I take a few minutes and close my eyes and just breathe...it calms everything down. I found this one out when I was running upstairs to check on my sleeping baby every ten minutes to make sure she was okay and my fiancee finally put his hands on my shoulders and whispered into my ear "Just breathe" -
-Just knowing what works for me- when it comes to school-studying, I worked best when I was eating dinner or drinking hot chocolate. I found that something else to do helped me to concentrate on what I was supposed to be doing better. When it comes to home-life - I know that the best way for me to regain composure is to take a nice hot bath and read a magazine.
I worked with an elementary classroom for a while and they had a "take a break " chair. The kids would go sit there if they were acting inappropriately. I think it works for every aspect though- Sometimes in life, you just need to take a break... regain composure, breathe, make a plan.. :)