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Permalink Reply by Sarah "Dwiizie" on December 10, 2010 at 2:32pm

I totally know the type you're talking about. I've encountered so many. OMG the stories I have about the girl that is a guitarist, but doesn't know a single thing. If you're a classical guitarist, classical guitar is her favorite thing ever and thats what she wants to go to school for. If you're a heavy metal guitarist, then thats all she's ever known and she lives for metal. If you like the Dead, she's a hippie chick through and through. She says anything to make you think she's the smartest greatest thing, but its ALLL BS. I also have the friend that thinks she is God's gift to hooping, and she's just...not... noone is...and if she actually worked on it, she could be really great, but she is so sure she is great already. I think you should read this:

http://www.hoopcity.ca/forum/topics/do-you-believe-you-have

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Permalink Reply by Arsyn- Of the Exentrix on December 10, 2010 at 2:37pm

Luv! He had good things to say. I bet we all know these people. Its just soooo annoying.

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Permalink Reply by CatalinaSpins on December 10, 2010 at 2:35pm

It takes alot of dedication to learn the tricks, and even more dedication to get your flow. Teaching her a few things is not going to let her steal your show. 

One thing you could do, is hold a workshop, where everyone who is interested in learning attends and invite Brittany to attend the workshop. This way people who are interested could see that it is you teaching her, not visa versa. 

Good Luck!

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Permalink Reply by Sarah "Dwiizie" on December 10, 2010 at 2:35pm

P.S. I know we aren't supposed to be "negative" here, but posers suck, and it sucks even more when they are the center of attention just because they know how to work with people. Sociopaths (or in my friends case, I deeply suspect histrionic personality disorder...wiki it lol) Good luck, hang in there, find some peace, and separate yourself from her. I'm having to cut off one of my hooping friends for that reason, its just not fun, and I will NOT allow her to poison my precious hooping sessions with her "Look at me!" crap. I wanted someone to hoop WITH, not someone that wants a one man audience out of me.

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Permalink Reply by Arsyn- Of the Exentrix on December 10, 2010 at 2:37pm

Werd!

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Permalink Reply by Arsyn- Of the Exentrix on December 10, 2010 at 2:38pm

I'm feeling better simply knowing that other's have gone through this as well. I hope to take a little from everyones experiences and make a solution to fit mine.

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StudentPermalink Reply by Sweet Sisi on December 10, 2010 at 2:43pm

Some people really take to heart the idea that imitation is a great compliment. She might not know what she's doing wrong. But other people generally see through this stuff in the end. Becoming a good hooper takes a fair amount of work, and what's more is that it takes dedication to do some practising frequently. For some people they love it love it love it and never stop, but for others they lose interest.

 

I'd say do a jam with her, you don't HAVE to teach her every trick you do, and if she keeps on stopping you and asking you how to do things, you can let her know that she's making what is meant to be fun, not fun.

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Permalink Reply by Casey B. on December 10, 2010 at 2:43pm

First off, oh man is Single White Female creeepy. Secondly, honestly I wouldn't worry about this girl. I feel like this about hooping but I feel like it's applicable to a lot of things in life: if the only reason she's hooping/spinning poi etc. is to get attention and "look cool," then she's not going to be very good at it. It just takes too much time and dedication to develop flow, and she won't be able to achieve that with her shallow motives. That's something that develops from an intense love and passion and I don't think it can really be duplicated.

Good luck though, I've encountered my fair share of people like that and it can definitely get annoying!

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StudentPermalink Reply by Miss Texas on December 10, 2010 at 2:45pm

If you're really afraid of her stealing your show, then just tell her you're really busy with school/work/whatever and that you don't have time to get together. It's not really lying, you really are too busy to spend your time teaching her tricks that she's not gonna credit you for.

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Permalink Reply by Arsyn- Of the Exentrix on December 10, 2010 at 2:48pm

I have a feeling I should just become very busy :P

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StudentPermalink Reply by dinahmyte on December 10, 2010 at 2:58pm

ha... boy oh boy do we all experience these types of people...  i can't say that i have with hooping, but with life in general, these type of people are everywhere!!!  i say keep doing what you do...  like you said, she'll be on to the next "cool" thing once someone else comes out with something new.  and like others have said, you can't teach yourself to be awesome.  you can teach yourself tricks, but the real skill comes from the passion, flow, and LOVE for something... not when you're doing it to look cool...  

 

keep your head up...  i would probably separate myself from the person, though it must be discouraging when you probably want to nurture a hooping community in your area, but you also don't want someone messing with the vibe of hoop love!

 

if you decide to stick around and jam out with her, just jam out...  if she wants to learn something, tell her to watch and learn.  

 

i love that you're so passionate about circus arts at a young age AND being male.  i think it's amazing.  =]  happy hooping sweets!

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Permalink Reply by Scunshine on December 10, 2010 at 3:03pm

you could charge her a little for lessons. So at least she didn't take your time and effort and credit for free. Otherwise I'd just decline her requests and she'll probably lose interest when the next shiny comes along.

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