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Permalink Reply by Shakti Sunfire on December 14, 2010 at 6:00pm

:) That's great to hear!

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Permalink Reply by Autumn Rose on June 17, 2012 at 4:10pm

Oh yes, I know the type all too well, though I've been able to rid myself of all of them by this point. I may be crazy, but have you thought about being upfront with her? It sounds like one of those cases where no one has ever actually let this girl know how she's coming off to the people that see through her acts. She obviously cares way too much about what everyone thinks about her, so if you let her know that you're wary to show her any moves at all and explain to her why that is, chances are she'll either get pissed, go into an act of denial, and not speak to you anymore, OR the truth will push her to change, to find out who she is and what she really wants and why it's coming out in the form of identity theft. Give her that shove and put a kink in the cycle she's got going. It may not be the easiest way, but it's a win win and you'll both be better for it. I had this issue with my first roommate (not hooping related, but essentially the same issue) and ended up getting the hell out of Dodge, so to speak, but she's still that way because no one wants to be the one to be honest with her. We haven't spoken in a long time, so it'd be inappropriate now, but I've since regretted not at least trying to take more time to help her grow as a person. No matter what, her motives will show through her hooping, so I don't think you should worry too much about that. But I think calling her out and forcing her to think about what she does, even if only for a moment, might be really good for her soul.

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StudentPermalink Reply by Vela Crux* on June 17, 2012 at 9:37pm

Holy. Your telling me I'm not the only one! I thought I was crazy but I've been through it. You just gotta stay focused on yourself and keep doing what you love. Let it motivate you to push harder 

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StudentPermalink Reply by Natalie McAnulla on June 17, 2012 at 11:38pm

do whats in your heart. never listen to others. do what you feel inside of yourself to be the right thing. that is the best advice applicable to most situations in life.  

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Permalink Reply by Roberta Cervantes Garcia on August 9, 2012 at 5:31pm

Exactly! these people have no originality to them. They have to "steal" from others because they really don't know who they are, and don't want to focus on things.

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Permalink Reply by Roberta Cervantes Garcia on August 21, 2012 at 5:37pm

Wow! what you wrote regarding your copy-cat sounds really freaky! Have you considered going to the police or something like that? What if that person one day turns her frustration into something more dangerous?

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Permalink Reply by Roberta Cervantes Garcia on August 9, 2012 at 5:26pm

I met a girl like your Britney, 7 years ago, and she completely ruined my summer trip to Canada. She also had a crazy fad on something (whether it be a new language, playing a musical instrument, or even worse, having a crush on the same boy), became an "expert" at it, took the stage and whenever you protested, made *you* look like the bitch with a case of the sour grapes. "Super sweet" girls who look so skillful and interesting, and "everybody likes them".

I was invited by my Quebecois friends to spend a couple of weeks with them in the Montreal region. I had a crush on my host's best buddy (a musician) for months, and we were thrilled to see each other. All of a sudden, the girl (my friend who I INVITED to accompany me) decided HE had a crush on HER, she kissed him on the mouth when she met him (!), and lied about herself to get his attention. Boys being boys, he went for the easier option (heartbreak!).

But let me tell you: after getting over my bittersweet summer, I realized something very important. These people have no originality nor personality of their own. You have to feel sorry for them. They live for the attention, they crave the spotlight, because no one really appreciates them on their own. They're empty people. They can't be really good at something because honestly they can't be bothered to focus on the important things in life - and that makes them suffer. They don't realize that to be an unique, tri-dimensional human being, you have to put your heart into things - and that's not always fun, nor easy. That's why their only resource, is to copy YOU. Learn from her, and be happy because you're wonderful on your own! :)

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Permalink Reply by Jade Lilian White on August 9, 2012 at 5:56pm

What ever happened to this situation and how was it resolved? Did you teach her? It's 2 years later, did all your fears come true?

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Permalink Reply by Mina Bear on August 15, 2012 at 11:06am

dont teach her....she doesnt deserve....ungrateful bitch she is.

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Permalink Reply by Hillary on August 16, 2012 at 9:04pm

Obviously you're not stingy about sharing what you've learned.  I mean, your YouTube vids have helped me SO much, I can't get over it!  (Thanks BTW!)

You want an easy way to tell this girl to screw off?  Hmmm....  Well, I tend to be pretty darn direct, so you may have to edit for your scenario.  But I'd just tell her I'm too busy to teach her.  EVERY time she asks.  Eventually she'll get the hint.  Esp. if you're vague about why you're too busy.  IF she has any balls she may call you out on it one day.  At THAT point you can tell her exactly what you've told us.  

There is no reason to be flat out rude to someone for no reason.  But THIS is not one of those cases.  You have a reason, she's all ready shown her true colors.  If she was serious, she could get on the web and do what we all do.  Then she'd be happy doing her own thing, and you'd see her and approach her!  Hope that helps.  Just don't let this girl make you feel pressured.  And don't be fooled into thinking she's not that bad either, as you've all ready seen her dirty work.

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Permalink Reply by JazzyHoopz on August 24, 2012 at 2:08pm

I say let her. She may say that they are her tricks, but just know you can do it better ;-) 

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