Don't worry about finding your flow yet.. I'm at about 9 months now and there are moments where I feel the beginnings of what I see as "flow," but it's all a spectrum anyway - it's not like you "find your flow" and then you are in possession of it afterwards. Definitely put some effort into learning to core hoop confidently on all parts of your body, and then you can work on dancing while core hooping, which is a huge part of what most people see as "flow," and after that you can add off body tricks to your repertoire. Just hoop and have fun and try to focus on the enjoyment you get out of it at the present moment instead of the goal of looking a certain way. Shoulder hooping takes quite a while to get the muscle memory down. I've just started working on shoulder hooping in my opposite direction, so I'm being reminded again of what a strange movement it requires, haha. Just keep at it and love the process. Also, watch Safire's "Love the Process" video if you haven't seen it yet ;-)
I think finding your flow is kind of like figuring out life. Its a life task! But, the flow will ebb and flow just like the good and bad times in our lives. I have been hooping since I was three and in the last four years have gotten pretty intense with it, but I still feel like I am lacking flow. Honestly, flow is that moment when you aren't worried about getting new tricks, messing up, or hurting yourself. The moment when you are just having fun being you playing with a plastic circle. Its not like once you have it, its their for ever. No, if you don't use it you lose it. Haha. But seriously, I would try to relax and break away from the big hoopin' problem we all have of finding our flow. Honestly, the best thing any of us could do is realize that we always have the flow (even in the bumps and bruises) and that it is always changing and moving like us. Hope that helps. Buuuuut...if you are only spinning for others and not yourself, than you will be unsatisfied. If you first spin for yourself and love yourself despite everything, than I think you will be able to feel the "flow" better.
p.s. Ive been really wonkey lately. My left clavicle was broken when I was in third grade, and it cant do the vortex. Really frustrating and makes me think I don't have flow. But than I realize that is silly because if I didn't have flow than the hoop wouldnt go. That is all to say, we've all got the hoop spinning and that itself is flow (no tricks and fancy stuff needed)
Love you and hope your journey with spinning goes lovely!
Im new as well. I invision my flow to come as the sugar sprinkle on top of all the tricks I learned. As they are flowing to and with each other bette,r softly and naturaly. I will feel that, then out of joy from realizing my progression and acheivment, I start to dance with the inner awesomeness that has been trapped in side me. I will at that moment dance like never before and thus create my bubble of peace, and through that flow of mind body and spirt I will be the truest self possable. Self love will flow through and around me..... But thats just how I like to think of it happening lol, so I dont chase it. Im hard on my self as is so this settles me down.
Keep learning and loving the process. Your flow will come with time, dedication, and practice. Remember to honor the progress you have made so far. Make yourself proud and don't compare yourself to others.
It took me about a year to get shoulder hooping only to want to do it standing still, which I saw on one of Anah's videos, which puts me back at beginner status again, which I really don't mind - I am a slow learner but can testify that dogged persistence with healthy doses of self forgiveness does pay off (reverse current shoulder hooping is next on my list :)
anyway (I waffle) I chipped away at it while both learning, and teaching myself, simple things and continuing to have fun with the already learned simple things (as you are doing) and one day it finally happened, which had much rejoicing as well as a silly victory dance :D