has anyone ever felt lonely for no reason?
lately i feel horribly...empty. it doesn't make much sense...i have a boyfriend who i live with so i'm never really alone for extended periods of time...i have like one girlfriend, who is awesome. i can tell her anything and she and i have a great relationship. these are the only two people who i really have connections with though...don't get me wrong, i'm so grateful for them.. i just feel like i need more. i feel like i have wayyyy more love to give. two people simply aren't enough.
so lately i've been opening up to other people and giving them love, but it ends up that they don't deserve it, or aren't interested in being friends. it's hurtful. i feel like i'm wasting away here...i'm new to this town, i know very few people...i feel like i could do so many things if i just had a group of people to do it with. it kills me to think about how many things i'm going to miss out on this summer because i have no one to attend events or hoop with...i've never been a one-friend kind of girl...and it seems like no one around here really gets me. plus the weather's been super crappy which only adds to my sadness...sigh.
advice from any others out there who who have been in this situation?
how can i find peace inside myself without friends?
Start a hoop jam or a hoop meet-up group in your area. That's how you make more friends who dig what you dig. I have a blog post on how to start one in my journal. Be proactive. You have to meet a lot of people to find YOUR people. Creating the scene (like a jam) helps.
I must say, everyone deserves love. It may be that upon knowing some people better it becomes clear that your paths are not aligned but we all, each and every one of us, deserves love, starting with from ourselves.
Please, don't feel like a ghost. I don't ever chat on the homepage. That feels like a time-suck to me and you never really know if others are paying attention anyway. I try to have conversations in threads but I've been really busy lately so that's been hard too. But just because I don't always write doesn't mean I don't notice and I know that's probably true for other people also. I've definitely noticed you. (And wondered if you and Richie live close to each other in NZ. Do you? If so, you could hoop together!) Anyway, to quote the very best line from Avatar -- I see you.
I often feel lonely too. I'm feeling very lonely right now. And yet, conversely, I don't really want to be around people. It's weird. I kinda feel like I'm going through a period of not liking to be with myself. THAT is a drag because while you can get away from your partner, your friends, your family, you can never get away from your self. So I've got to make peace. Sometimes, though, I want to lean into someone, to feel their arms around me, to be comforted. It's been a long time since I've had a dating relationship and sometimes I miss that. It's been on my mind lately when I've been wishing for comfort. Perhaps it's just a blue period. It is winter and Jan 17th (the day this was posted), is generally considered by scientists to be the saddest day of the year in western culture. Winter is at a nader, Christmas bills are coming due, vitamin D is low from lack of sunlight... People feel depressed. So know that. A lot of people are experiencing a blue period right now. But look what artists do with their blue periods!?! Perhaps being creative will help. It often makes me feel better to create.
Soooo, I've been having all kinds of complicated feelings too -- loneliness, anxiety, fear and stress, worry... And I know I'm not the only one. Everyone I know is. I've also been having weird dreams that are not bad, per se, but worrisome and not restful. I don't feel at peace. And that amps up all these other feelings. I am going to meditate for three minutes every day until something changes for me. I'm ready for a change. I am also going to sit with the mantra "om mani padme hum" - the mantra of compassion. That almost always makes me feel better.
I hope something makes you all feel better too. If nothing else, always remember this, "This too shall pass." That is one true thing that is always true no matter what.
Hugs and love,
OOOOOO thankyou ...
That brought a BIG SMILE to my face .. Yes i know Richie he buys his Hoops off me ..
But we don't live close tho .. AND i don't drive so that's a bummer
I do how ever Chat to him when he ANSWERS my emails ..LOL
I try my best to make everyone HAPPY and SMILE
Because if you Smile at everyone U see that day
It makes them SMILE too
Hugs too all
caroleeena, for what it's worth, even though you and i have never really met, you are such a huge inspiration to me. your energy is something so beautiful. i can just tell your heart is so big and good! i'm sorry you're feeling blue...it seems like so many of us are right now! just please know that you have positively affected so many lives and inspired so many people. there's no doubt that you are loved! thank you so much for encouraging and lifting my mood with your kind words...you definitely made me feel better. i meditated with your compassion mantra today, by the way...it was hugely helpful! i'm also going to head out on payday to get some art supplies. i think that's a great idea! i'm not much of an artist, but i do feel like it could be beneficial.
lots of love. <3
Agreed. Caroleeena has one of the brightest lights and kindest hearts of anyone I've ever known (even if i only know her online :-P)
Change your scenery maybe, like instead of hooping at home you could go to the ymca or a public park(when it's warmer) and bring extra hoops with you. I always invite people to hoop with me and they get a kick out of giving it a try. Or if there is kids in you neighborhood,I just love giving a couple of beater hoops to kids, they can be so silly and cute playing with a hoop, maybe it would help lift your spirits a bit.
i guess loneliness is different from person to person....i hope you find your balance soon.
sending lots of love your way! <3