I must confess that I struggle with this, too. For me, hooping is similar to yoga in that both force you to really inhabit your body and feel everything. Which, if you have low self image or something similar, can be hard.
Maybe your body is calling for a change? Maybe your self-perception needs massaging? I'm not sure. Just know that you're not alone. And I think you're gorgeous and have a great body from the evidence I have seen! :)
I too, like most people, have insecurities about my body... Here is something that helps me...
Thoughts are energy. The more energy you give to these bad thoughts, the more powerful they become. It's hard to get yourself to "just stop thinking about it" (advice many well-meaning people have given me), what you can do is channel those negative thoughts into something else.
To have good health is the greatest thing you can have. I am constantly grateful for my health and fully working body. So many people are not as fortunate. Whenever I have a bad thought about my body (ex: thinking to myself, "ugh, I hate my legs" I think to myself: 'Would I ever say that infront of someone in a wheelchair?' Of course not. So my hips are wide, and I don't have a flat stomach.. So what?! They work!I don't mean to come off as implying that you are ungrateful. But perhaps just remind yourself of how fortunate you are. Don't buy into the shallow, glass half empty, mentality that society has imposed on us. You are beautiful!
Ladies, many of us feel the same way every now and then. I just think its a matter of attitude, confidence and loving yourself.
When you feel great about yourself it shows! Ive seen so sexy, gorgeous girls that arent pretty, or skinny, or breasty, or girly etc... They just look that way because they feel like they are beautiful, because they love their bodies and they accept them as they are.
Our bodies arent perfect and we are never satisfied. If we are thin, we complain about hip lacking, if we are hourglass shaped we complaint about cellulite...
I have an ugly scar in the middle of my chest, so what! When I stop hating it, I feel free and beautiful.
I say work for what you want. Excercise, work on your posture, diet, eat more, anything that works for you, but remember that your body, your shape, your skin is unique and makes you who you are. Love yourself. See the beauty that lies on every inch of your skin.
Remember that we are young just once, that there is only one body and that thanks to it we are able to do what we like. Just take care of yourself. The more you care about your body from the inside, it will show from the outside...
"I say work for what you want. Excercise, work on your posture, diet, eat more, anything that works for you, but remember that your body, your shape, your skin is unique and makes you who you are. Love yourself. See the beauty that lies on every inch of your skin."
"Remember that we are young just once, that there is only one body and that thanks to it we are able to do what we like. Just take care of yourself. The more you care about your body from the inside, it will show from the outside..."
Really good insight Daniela.
HI Kayla, sometimes we all cry out for connection, when we feel lost in the wilderness. I think you look lovely and are a beautiful hooper, but it doesn't matter what anyone says if you aren't ready to believe it, or feel it inside. Please keep posting as you work through these feelings, and know that even when we feel stuck, everything's changing. It might be on a molecular, microscopic, glacial paced level, but everything's changing! Compassion must begin with ourselves, or it's not complete. Be patient as the changes reveal themselves, and know that as a hooper, I've been told it takes up to 3 years to find the 'flow', when we move from spastic to sensual :O) I think you're already there. Enjoy the subtleties and nuances of your hoopdance, and personal growth. Let go of forcing yourself to become - a flower blooms when it's ready, not when we want to pull apart its petals. Letting go of ambition and enjoying your beautiful presence is what hoopdance and hoop healing is all about. This video by LIssa always crushes me with her beauty and acceptance. http://vimeo.com/5388876?utm_source=December+HoopScoop&utm_camp...
Hang in there, keep posting, you have a big circle of hoopers that care about you.
what an amazing video! :)
thank you :D
everything everyone has said has hit me in some way and i appreciate it all!
today i hooped and felt amazing although i messed up a lot. but i still felt better than usual.
i have been hooping for almost 2 years and i have always felt a little frustration in it, but thats what keeps pushing me,
i came to realize last night after i posted this that im mostly frustrated with myself and not hooping at all, its me that puts all these thoughts in my head, im the only one to blame for all of it.
i recently moved from illinois to washington and i have been alone in my house for almost 2 weeks now, trying to get a job. i have walked about 15 miles since i got here just looking and filling out applications and i have not gotten one single phone call from any place i have applied, so that has been digging at me.
also i had to leave my boyfriend that i have been with for 4 years.
BUT. im not blaming those things for my frustration in myself. because those are just little obstacles in my path to move forward into big things.
i moved here to try to start something amazing and better for myself and all i have gotten so far is tears,
i know i am stronger than this sometimes it just takes other peoples words to help understand again.
thank you again for all you have said!
it has helped!