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Permalink Reply by Hoopxotic (Keity Rose) on October 3, 2011 at 1:31pm

*big e-hug*  I'm so sorry!!  But I know how it feels to be completely unmotivated to hoop due to depression.  My best friend took his life in January and I didn't hoop for 3 months.  One day I just started to feel better and Very slowly started using my hoop again.  As you've said, the hoop is a happy space, and when you're feeling exactly the opposite of happy, it can be hard to want to enjoy yourself.  I think part of it is an unwillingness to move on from the situation you're in and start to heal, which is completely understandable in some circumstances.  Give yourself time to grieve and you will eventually begin to use your hoop again.  Although it can seem hard to want to hoop when youre sad, if you can push yourself, the hoop is an amazing stress reliever.  When I fight with my boyfriend, I go hoop, and after even 5 minutes I'm not mad anymore.  But you are certainly Not alone, I've seen countless forum posts about hoop fallouts for lots of different reasons, and the hoopcity family is always here for you!  :)  Feel better soon <3

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Permalink Reply by Stevie Cee on October 3, 2011 at 2:02pm

Thank you Keity, I know in times like this reaching out to the community is best and since everyone here is so full of love I knew I could find inspiring words of solace here. *hugs back*

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Permalink Reply by Ponderful on October 3, 2011 at 2:12pm

Sending a hug your way!  Pick it up and just hoop away!

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Permalink Reply by musicislife52 on October 3, 2011 at 2:14pm

I got dumped out of nowhere after 5 years right before summer started. I picked up hooping almost immediately after, and it has been healing me since. Spiral into blissssssssss. <3 Throw on your favorite tunes and let go. Clear your mind, close your eyes, go into the music, and SPIN. I feel so free in my hoop, and I'm sure you will too. Give it time, you will heal. You don't think you will, but I promise, it gets better. BUT ONLY IF YOU LET IT. You have to take care of yourself and do things. DO NOT WALLOW IN BED!!! You will think too much! Get out of your house and hoop or do whatever else makes you happy and free feeling. Just stay busy and hang out with friends. And SMILE, SMILE, SMILEEEE! Always! No matter how down you feel. Fake smiles and laughs usually turn into genuine smiles and laughs.

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Permalink Reply by Stevie Cee on October 3, 2011 at 2:25pm

Thanks Musicislife...I am doing my best to stay busy and I am going to try to pick up the hoop after work. I am sorry about being dumped after 5 years. I am experience the pain of a 14month relationship ending, I cant even IMAGINE 5 years being cut short. deep sympathetic hugs for you. Thanks for sharing the love everyone...

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Permalink Reply by musicislife52 on October 19, 2011 at 8:45pm

Thanks <3  And good luck. The healing process sucks haha but it will get better with time! :)

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Permalink Reply by Ness on October 4, 2011 at 12:40pm

Sending love and postive thoughts your way right now...I know this is a painful time. I understand exactly what you're saying when you say you don't want to have a melt down in your happy space - but you know the joy that hooping brings you when you aren't sad. I've been there. But I've found that escaping to my hoop helps me heal, brings those feelings of happiness that before seemed distant. Look inside yourself, this wound is fresh and maybe the truth is you don't feel ready (or deserving) to feel happy again and you fear that hooping will do this. I think you'll feel free if you turn to your hoop and quite possible develop a deeper relationship with your hoop. You associate it now with happiness, but after experiencing this painful breakup maybe the hoop can be your shining source of light that helped you through this darkness.

The hardest part is the first spin. So grab your hoop and give it a go. Tell yourself you'll spin it for a minute, I bet you find yourself there for longer.

Best wishes!

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Permalink Reply by Mootie Scootie on October 4, 2011 at 10:40pm

Sorry you are so sad, I hope you are able to feel better soon.  I do think that your hoop is calling out to you, otherwise why would it be your first thought when you are hurting.  It is interesting that every time I see someone sad my first thought always is "all they need is a hoop".  There must be something to this thinking.  I know on a normal day hooping makes me so happy and on a bad day hooping makes me feel better, so I have to imagine that during a sad time my hoop would be very soothing to me.  Your hoop would be the hugs that you are so desperately seeking.  Dont worry if you overwhelm your space with sadness or even negativity, your hoop is very forgiving.  It is not just a happy space, it is a healing space, a growing space, a learning space.  Once you begin you will transition from one to the other until you settle back into happy again.  I just know it!   You will literally come full circle!

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Permalink Reply by Stevie Cee on October 7, 2011 at 1:36pm

Thanks for the inspiration. I am going to try to jump in my hoop today. Today seems a little bit more bareable! Work is busy and I am distracting myself with the tele and online friends. Its not so bad at the moment. somtimes it can be a rollercoaster from one hour to the next though...

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Permalink Reply by Debs on October 5, 2011 at 10:44am

big hugs and all the good vibes for u!

i feel unmotivated , but my problem its my work when i come home after work i cant found the inspiration  to hoop and where i live there's no many hoopers i need a hoop friend lol!

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Permalink Reply by SoulSpun Lyric on October 5, 2011 at 9:24pm

(((hug))) I have no wise words of advise since I have not gone through this kind of pain :( but I felt the need to send u air hugs and positive loving vibes!!

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Permalink Reply by Stevie Cee on October 7, 2011 at 1:36pm

Thank you so much SoulSpun

 

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