Okay I know I'm going to sound whiney but...
I've always been on the slim side (it's my natural build), but since hooping I noticed there's been a change - and not a good one. I've lost ANY curves that I had; it's not due to losing weight, and I'm not becoming like, crazy-toned or anything like that...But for some reason I'm just "up-and-down" now, and my hips are practically non-existant.
I know it's a little pathetic, but it really effected my confidence :/ So I was just wondering...What changes - if any - have you noticed in yourself? Have you experienced this? And what advice would you give to someone (namely me, haha) whose self-esteem has taken a knock?
Hi there.. so I searched this topic as this issue is starting to wear on me. Until I started hooping and being conscientious about my health, I had curves and a bit of excess weight. Hooping helped me lose a lot of weight since I began which was great at first, but now I feel less confident about my shape, that I'm also just "up and down."
The best part is I've moved back to my hometown after a few years and so many people keep telling me the same thing.. that I look so different, so skinny, etc. And it's making me feel very self conscious about my body. It doesn't help that I've always been small chested I'm even more aware of it now. To improve this situation I know I should start working out to build muscle and eating more protein, calories etc. But I feel like I lost something that I appreciated.. I don't feel like myself. Anyone use positive affirmations or have any tips?
This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you.
i feel your pain. i'm tall, muscular, have broad shoulders, and am lacking in the boob and hip department. some days i feel insecure and that i look like a boy. other days i like my body because i'm a flexible and strong amazon woman.
it gets easier if you focus on all the awesome stuff your body can do rather than what it looks like.
I addressed this on my Facebook a while back. About to go shopping but might comment more on this topic later:
"Dude, I'm sick of people telling me that my size is unnatural, that I need a sandwich, or asking me what I eat, as if it's some foreign concoction. I eat whatever I need to and stop when I'm full, okay? This is what's healthy for me.
Yes, I totally recognize that skinny girls technically have a privilege in today's society but bashing people for a body type they have no control over is ridiculous.
And yes, I know girls my size who have had children, and I know I'm ovulating regularly, so don't bring up that argument as if you get some sadistic pleasure out of telling people they can't have kids."
Well my body issues are a bit different from yours they still started once hooping. I am not heavy or small. I am kinda just inbettween 5'4" 128 pounds just in the middle for me. But my sister has always been very thin and she is the one who introduced to to hooping. We are opposites in every thing about our looks I have large boobs she has smaller ones, she has a ton stomach , I have softer one and so on and so forth. This usually doesn't bother me I mean I excepted long ago I will not be as small as her. But now when I hoop in a bikini or in a sports bra I am so nervous. I just think over and over how great her body looks hooping. How round I look. But I have been growing as well. Every time I wake up I look at my self and say god you are beautiful. It sounds weird but I rub my stomach and notice how it is looking toner. I have spent so much time comparing my self and thinking of different body shapes that I have lost my self. I hope that you can grow to love your small frame. Just think how beautiful you are inside and out.
I commented on this a while back, but I've since come across something I'd like to share that I feel oddly applies here. I just recently finished Tina Fey's book Bossypants (which, by the way, I HIGHLY recommend. I literally laughed cover to cover) in which she tells a story featuring another one of my favorite comedic minds, Amy Poehler, on the set of SNL during a time when she was, to her disappointment and frustration, continuously given roles as the wife or maid in the "men's" skits. Tina Fey explains that, often times, the actors will warm up for performances by acting out improvisational scenes with each other. In this particular occurrence, Amy was doing something rather unladylike (Tina wrote that she couldn't remember what exactly it was), when Jimmy Fallon, obviously not okay with her nontraditional actions, interrupted her skit by saying something along the lines of "Eww, stop doing that, I don't like it!" At this, Amy Poehler spun around cold-faced and yelled "I don't fucking care if you like it!" (Excuse my language, but that's a direct quote :P) She then simply turned back and continued. Of course, Jimmy Fallon shut up immediately.
That spoke to me in a strange way and ever since I read it I've applied that line to lots of things that used to stress me out, especially my body image. I was given this body. At the end of the day it is what it is, I am who I am, and I can be happy with it or not. I choose to be happy, and I don't fucking care if you like it!
Humor really is the best medicine.:D
I am loving this thread right now.
I too am a thin girl, I have been all my life. And I have curves! 34C, size 5. I got boobs and a booty!! And I too, have been scrutinized for my weight. (or "Lack thereof"..pfffft) For some reason people think it's appropriate to tell me that I'm "too thin" or "wow, you're skinny" in that..tone. Somedays I just want to be like, "yeah?! WELL YOU'RE TOO FAT!! HOW DO YOU LIKE ME NOW!!!" I would never say that, by the way.
Playing devils advocate just a little bit here though.. I think its funny that in societies view it would be wildly inappropriate to tell someone that they're "Too Fat" but it seems to be totally fine to tell someone that they're too skinny. As though those words didn't hurt us too. Because if we don't have curves or we aren't ___ pounds then we don't have feelings. Commenting on anyones weight is not okay. Regardless of size.
I'm so glad (Well, not glad, but you know what I mean) to hear that other women get this too. A couple of my coworkers hear this all the time as well, and we are all healthy and happy human beings. We've all decided we are no longer going to feel bad about having a great metabolism. Take that haters!! :p <3
Love yourselves and Love eachother.
Love this thread too. It's really never okay to make disparaging comments about another person's body, no matter *what* size they are. I'm a 6 now, but I was a 14 once, so I know both sides of it. I don't really consider myself thin, but others who are bigger than me do, and it's bizarre and rather insulting to be called "skinny" by some larger women. I just don't get it, and it's even more upsetting because I feel I still have a bit to lose.
It's also awkward because I'm a 34GG, so the size difference between my chest, waist, and lower body (I'm an apple/cone shape, so everything bellow my waist is quite small) REALLY stands out.
The whole thing is ridiculous anyway. Women come in all shapes and sizes. I don't know why we every need to zero in on one unattainable ideal as the litmus test for everyone else.