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StudentPermalink Reply by AmaraZingara on December 9, 2010 at 1:12am

agreeeddd, you only hate what you hate in yourself, and envy what you wish you had, right on<3

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Permalink Reply by Natallie on December 7, 2010 at 10:52am

Aw...I think of this alll the time...We can start with ourselves...Since I started hooping Ive seen the change in my life in sooo many ways. Im more free than ever before & have noticed that loving myself has made an imact on my point of view. Ive also noticed that Ive been drawn to more positive people & have seen te change in myself as well as the ones I have an influence on :) So theres a start! Peace friend! (hope that makes sense, lol)

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Permalink Reply by Sarah "Dwiizie" on December 7, 2010 at 11:01am

I have a hard time responding to this. I don't know if it would be this fix all solution. I mean, I can say that without judgements in my life, I wouldn't have anxiety, I wouldn't have a lot of the problems I have had. Not all people agree with what we agree with though, some people may think that cannibalism is the way to eternal life or whatever (just a hypothetical scenario) We wouldn't judge them, they would just eat people and we'd all get along fine? What about when they eat you? Or if someone thinks that every man should have 20 women and so he collects child brides. Should we just sit back and say "Who am I to judge?" Maybe I'm missing the Utopian aspect of the question, or maybe we were just supposed to answer in what if form, but if I think of a world with no social checks and balances, its a little scary for me.

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StudentPermalink Reply by luluperuse on December 7, 2010 at 11:44am

It's hard to discern the difference between judgment and not being in accordance with another's choices or values. Although I try not to judge people, I don't feel the need to agree with people or accept what they do or say all of the time. However, I try to be accepting of all our differences. I believe in the differences and diversity of people more than anything else! I feel I try to listen to differences of opinion, but when I feel the need to speak out, disagree, or voice my own opinion, I do.

I am a very sensitive person and I feel very wounded when I think I am being judged. I used to worry about it excessively. But now I try to think, "This person (the "judge") is entitled to their own thoughts and I have no control over their thoughts. I only have control over how I emotionally respond to their thoughts/words. The judge is not "god. They do not operate me or my life. What they say or do has no bearing on how I view myself as a person."

I'm learning how to respond with less sensitivity, but it is a slow process because I think it is important to be sensitive and emotionally intuitive, so how to keep that and lose the woundedness...?

That said, people who harshly judge, like who criticize small children, or who cause emotional abuse are definitely not cool!

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StudentPermalink Reply by Sweet Sisi on December 7, 2010 at 11:58am

Read the Neanderthal Parallax and you'll see what I figure people would be like.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Neanderthal_Parallax

I like to think people would be more happy, but we might just all be zombies. Which might be interesting on its own.

A world without judgement requires two things: First, people that don't judge, and second, people that don't think they're BEING judged. Most of us are so damaged by the world we live in and its judgey ways, it wouldn't be possible to have a world without judgement because there are people who think the world judges them no matter what they do. (My best friend is one of those).

With world wide counselling we could come close though. : P

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StudentPermalink Reply by AmaraZingara on December 7, 2010 at 12:04pm

there would be no fear.
judgment only exsists because of fear, your idea about something being different then you, or different then they, or vice versa. there is no hell, so why judge. dont worry about judging others and dont worry about peoples judgmenet on you. in the end all these people will be right next to you in "heaven" your bodies left behind all dust.
you have to leave this place alone, no one here gets out alive.
let it be :)
2012

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Permalink Reply by Meghan Yahner on December 8, 2010 at 5:26am

i think that the world would be the most beautiful place ever then. my family and friends call me niave alot because im always asking why people dont get along, why there is racsim and war. why people have to kill eachother over territory when the earth is ours to share. i get called innocent and stuck in my own world but i believe in it. i wish there was no hate, judging, negativity or jealousy. but love, compassion, kindness and care for everyone. i dont understand how people see eachother. my mom said her co-workers son was killed in iraq the other day...and it makes me sick. we all have skin, bones, organs a brain and a heart. so what if we speak differently, grew up in different cultures or have different colored skin, those things never stopped me from talking or befriending someone. words like nig*** and fag are just gross, and jew & arab jokes aren't funny to me. i see the world as one big planet, we all share it, we were all put here, why not embrace it. instead we create boundaries for others and punish them if they question it. its ridiculous and i wish i could be president just so i could take away everything, all the stupid rules and stereotypes. fuck war. why do people think its ok to kill someone elses husband, father, grandson? if it was your family member of friend youd be sad, so why do it to someone else, we all have feelings dont we? ugh i just hate the stupid looks kids give eachother, the dumb nicknames and untrue rumors they spread through school. why waste your time calling someone a nerd when you could be getting to know them? i was a "loser/freak" in high school, or atleast thats how certain people made me feel. but everntually i grew up and into myself and forgot about what poeple said or thought. so by my senior year i was just me and it was ok. and the people who got to know me liked me for who i was, and we became friends. i have a lot of people i wish i wouldve talked to or got to know from my school, but they judged me and didnt want to let me in, their loss. my point is i have a visoin of the perfect world in my head. it goes like this:

there are no such things as countries, just different chunks of land. everyone owns the earth all the same. there is no money, people trade like they used to. no new ridiculous technologies like 3D televisions to take home or wii. the news only reported good funny happy things like babies who were born or old couples that finally got married. no murder or death. cars weren't mass produced. there were buses and trains and airplanes and boats, thats it. you have to walk or ride you old school bike somewhere. there are NO fast food restaurants anywhere. there is no such thing as segregation, you are loved for whatever color you are. there was never a halocaust because there is only love, no need to gain power, because everyone feels equal. no guns, guns were made to kill, if you hunted animals to eat youd use a bow & arrow. we wouldnt be experimenting with bombs because there would be no need, no reason to ever feel threatened. we would live off of the earth and farmers would have the most control, not business men. trees wouldnt keep getting knocked down to make roads or parking lots or new houses. familys lived together in big wodden cabins powered by streams and rivers.

that is the world i dream of every night, and the world i wish to live....

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Permalink Reply by MayaAya on June 26, 2012 at 1:15pm

Interesting! I like a lot of these old posts coming to resurface. Good topics.

I have somewhat opposing views on these. If we weren't able to judge one another, we'd be setting ourselves up for danger. Judgment is instinctual and a survival tactic. If we see someone who looks like a threat, we use that judgment to avoid them! This is based on what I've learned studying psychology and biology. And in general, the judgments that lead me to the thoughts "stay away from that person, they're trouble!" have been accurate. While some people call it a "bad vibe" or a warning from intuition, usually it's mostly do to the physical appearance of a person. You can't help it--within the first 30 seconds you've made a concrete decision about your opinion on this person. (This can be swayed if you get to know them better).

Unfortunately, with these much needed judgments come the more shallow, hateful, and less helpful ones. But just because you aren't apt to judge people before getting to know them doesn't mean that they'll be wonderful people or someone you'll want to be around.

It would be like a bird eating a monarch butterfly (poisonous to consume) and (assuming the bird could analyze situations) thinking that maybe not all monarch butterflies have that horrible bitter taste and make them sick. They will keep eating monarch butterflies if they don't make judgments and endanger themselves.

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TeacherPermalink Reply by Lyssamarie on July 5, 2012 at 9:48pm

very deep and thought out reply. thanks i enjoyed reading into your insight. fabulous<3

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Permalink Reply by Keseygirll~ on July 14, 2012 at 12:23am

i think judging one another can be a good thing, sometimes, when someone gets out of hand with an addiction or a destructive behavior, the judgement of their friends and family can help them to realize what they're doing is wrong.. a fair amount of judgement from people you love can guide you; but i don't think you should ever truly care about what the masses of people think that you don't really know, they have no impact on your life really so worrying about what they think is a waste of time.

:)

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