Comment by Jade Lilian White on January 21, 2012 at 3:07pm

Do you hoop with them? 

Comment by Stevie Cee on January 22, 2012 at 3:38am

Sometimes, but not usually, for some reason I just don't feel like putting on a show...it doesnt feel right. it feels like a competition. I know it isnt supposed to. I know I am probably projecting...

feeling that slight twinge of  feeling threatened that shouldnt be there is hardly a motivator to hoop w these girls. they look so beautiful but they also look bored and unapproachable...

ugh. mind games.

Comment by Theresa on January 22, 2012 at 11:11am

i know EXACTLY how you feel!! I feel like when I go to shows its less like mmm this music makes me want to jam! and more like oh who has the prettiest priciest LED, oh who knows more tricks? I honestly just quit bringing my hoop and dance, unless its a festival or a very small community show.

The last time I brought my hoop to a show it was a disaster, girls kept asking to use it and someone slammed it against the wall (thanks! those are cheap!) and then my boyfriend started complaining about me not giving him enough attention so I put it down 2 feet away from me to dance with him and I looked over and some girl tried to steal it!!! I chased her down and got it back and ended having to leave because I started crying :(

I just gave up after that. lol

Comment by Summer on January 22, 2012 at 11:11am

I know exactly how you feel..it can be rough on the dance floor...my advise to you is spend more time alone hooping, watching inspirational hoopers online like Brecken or Safire and just reconnecting with yourself and your hoop rather than other hoopers. Try working with doubles more and look up new tricks to challange yourself with.

Comment by Theresa on January 22, 2012 at 11:17am

you know, i really thought maybe i was just an outcast or something was wrong with me because I love to hoop everyday. I love learning new things with the hoop, and trying new types of music but I hardly take it outside my yard, while all the other hoopers I know are always planning days to do it together and going to this show and that show, I thought maybe I was like some sort of hooping hermit!

I'm really glad you post stuff like this because its pretty much exactly how I feel, Im really glad there is someone else out there who sees it like I do. I'm not trying to bash the community by all means but there is a weird...something about it...

Comment by Jade Lilian White on January 24, 2012 at 5:22pm

Well it's similar to high school, you pick and choose where you want to be. Some people play the cheerleader at the pep rally, others score high in athletics, some are artists, others join theater club. 

There is nothing wrong with any of you. It is good to keep things for yourself, especially skills and talents. All you can do is build upon it and wow the world later.

A lot of females are outgoing, and a lot are introverted. You seem introverted, and that is awesome because it is so hard to find honesty. Shy people tend not to say a lot, but when they do, it is the truth. Outgoing people say whatever is needed to fit their situations, they love chit-chatting, spitting the dirt, and being the fun one at a party. But when you are naturally different and the total opposite of that, it really attracts the right people. You won't be surrounded by those just trying to use you, steal ideas, or put you down when you are not around. You will find real, honest, genuine people like yourself. 

I don't think you need those girls in your life. I would not want to be friends with people like that unless they had shown me that there was something else important to them besides being the hottest, most admired girl for the present being.

I bet you are all very good performers and perhaps you fear that others will dislike and disapprove of what you do. Let it go and just dance, with or without your hoop, but carry it just in case. I honestly think that you have more to give than a hoop dance and you realize it but for some reason you haven't discovered the acceptance in it.

Comment by Stevie Cee on February 2, 2012 at 2:01pm

Thanks for the advice guys. I am pretty introverted at times. I think some people get competative in the hoop community, for instance i was trying to impress a pretty girl and instead I totally turned her off and away because i must have appeared like I was showing off, which wasnt my intention. being a girl who is super sensative I realize sometimes our intentions are very different from what others are periciving, such as shyness being percieved as being stuck up.  Thanks for the wise words about just letting go and dancing and the imporance of surrounding myself with positive influence. I think maybe the club scene isnt my forte right now, i have never hooped at any festies (Except burning man which was amazing!)

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