Mod Comment by Martika* of MartikasMysticDesign on August 17, 2012 at 11:55am

Don't force these things to happen, they will happen on their own. Every hooper hits a wall that they must over come.Some hit many walls in their hoop journey.. Sometimes that wall has to deal with the hoop it's self or that hooper's inner frustration. Sometime it has nothing to do with hooping...Work,family, friends can put you in this sort of feeling. As if your not quite getting want you need or want in life that then flows into your hooping.Leave your hoops  where they are till you are able to feel calm within yourself to then let that feeling flow into your hoop. I believe meditation not for religion but for the calming of your mind and being able to stop all thought and reflect inward to find what you really need to move past the brick wall you are at. 

 I believe that one can not truly love till they can truly love themselves and how they are currently and not what they want to be.

Comment by kayla hensley on August 17, 2012 at 1:03pm

seriously dude don't quit. it took me years to get where i am today and i am still mediocre. the reason i love hooping so much is because there is no rules its dancing! if you love music and love to responde physically to it then hooping is the perfect activity/ workout. hooping is like everything else is life, if you compare youself to others then you will always be discouraged.  put on your favorite song clear our ur living room and just hoop hoop hoop. watching youtube videos are always a great way to learn but they are also a great way to make yourself feel like you are not as advanced as the trillions of people on the internet.  THERE IS NO WRONG WAY TO HOOP as long as you are doing your thing and loving it then you are just as good as everyone else.  stop trying so hard and have fun. good luck girl i hope this helps but i can honeslty say most hoopers have felt this way, but giving up is the worste. !!

Student Comment by Danielle Starshine on August 17, 2012 at 3:39pm

don't give up! everyone has to start somewhere. hell, it took me 2 weeks to waist hoop. no one just picks up a hoop and is instantly able to do crazy tricks with it. it takes practice and determination.

 

if you are really that frustrated, take a break from hooping for a while. do something else you are interested in. pick up the hoop again if it calls to you.

most importantly, don' t compare yourself to others! this is the worst thing to do.

Comment by Keseygirll~ on August 17, 2012 at 9:54pm

i think this pressure to do complicated tricks while finding a flow or whatnot comes from within you; you need to let it out. let go of that which no longer serves you and just do it for the fun of it :) if you choose to continue to do it all. :) iim sending you good vibrationss! stick it out:)

Comment by Aya Anarchy on August 17, 2012 at 10:28pm

Don't give up! I can't do much at all but I still find happiness in just listening to some music and waist hooping until my body just tells me it's time to rest. Sometimes the simple things can still bring you the best joy! Just keep working on it and know there's plenty of us that still struggle to get better everyday and we can't get discouraged! We just gotta keep it going and keep trying. 

When it gets to be too much again, go back to the basics again and just enjoy the time with your hoop and maybe a favorite song.

Comment by PHoops on August 18, 2012 at 2:08pm

I've been hooping for about 2 years and still cannot do some of the most basic moves out there, but I still enjoy picking up the hoop and playing with it! I think if you really don't like it then it's okay to quit  hooping. If it's something you really tried once and it wasn't for you, there's no shame at all in putting it away. I'd keep the hoops though in case there's ever a day you feel like trying again!!  But if you are at all hesitant in leaving hooping behind, then I'd say keep trying!! Don't worry about dancing in your hoop and flow and all that and if it really bothers you, take dance lessons or just dance more in your living room around the hoop...  I don't have anywhere near the flow or dance moves that other hoopers, who picked up the hoop after me have... and it doesn't bother me so much... because as with Everything, there's ALWAYS someone worse than me and there's ALWAYS someone better than me out there. It's part of the beauty in life. Good luck! I hope you find your way!! :) <3

Comment by Alice Robins on August 18, 2012 at 9:55pm

these people have great advice. If you don't want to keep going, don't, but try not to be discouraged about not progressing how you'd like to. I started out going from having trouble, to learning something new each day, to not being able to lean much new at all, yet still working on new things.
Knee hooping took me trying a little bit each day until it started to stick. Behind the back elbow pass took step by step breaking down just trying to get used to the feel [and to not keep hitting myself], and I still can't go the other way XD [I still get hit by the hoop sometimes even with tricks I know better]
 

Comment by Taylor on August 19, 2012 at 7:44am

Maybe this will help :)

http://youtu.be/nmEwVC9x-h4

I watch this video whenever I feel down about hooping, or just life in general. You learn to love the process because that is what has made people great. We all have had to start somewhere and that somewhere is always at a beginning place. Don't give up because it is difficult! Nothing in life that is worth anything is easy.

Student Comment by Cora (Shasta) on August 19, 2012 at 11:22am

 & YES it can also be THE HOOPS & their size & weight !!!
The specific hoop size is key for ALL LEVELS of skill for ALL HOOPERS !
making your learning curve way more challenging than need be to feel the magic even

simply "just waist hooping" . I encounter this with every single new hoopere !!
Even with 4yrs of hoop skills i simply love just waist hooping & being mindful of my breath !!!!

 

Comment by Caroleeena of Circles of Joy on August 19, 2012 at 1:33pm

Sometimes we need to walk away from the hoop - but usually it's just a break, not a break-up. Consider that. 

Consider also a different hoop. It may be that the hoop you have is not the one you need at this point in your journey. So many people recommend and rush for smaller hoops and I think that sucks the joy right out of hooping for a lot of people. What was fun before becomes work. It's one of the reasons I still happily embrace my large-ish hoop even after ten years of hooping. 

Also, hoop for yourself! Not for anyone else. Cultivate non-comparision. This means choosing to Breathe and Be Here Now every time you find yourself comparing yourself, whether positively or negatively, to anyone else, INCLUDING this perfect future self we often envision for ourselves! Be Here Now. Be in this moment, in this experience, without criticism or complaint, relishing being alive. 

Release your expectations. If you expect that hooping is going to make you see your body in a different way, or that it will change your body and suddenly you'll love it, well, that's a lot of pressure and a pretty high pedestal to fall from. Hooping just helps you BE in your body. Recognize that you are alive and healthy enough to breathe deeply and strong enough to stand tall and capable of learning anything you continue to apply yourself to. Our ability to get better at things is directly proportional to how much embarrassment we are willing to tolerate. Frustration often comes from embarrassment, from imagined conversations with unseen others that are really just conversations in your head with your own inner critic. Learning to say to that critic, "I hear you but I am just going to try again anyway" can help you move away from that kind of self-criticism. 

Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly at first. It took me years to get chest hooping. Years to get leg hooping. But I found other things that interested me along the way. Other tricks. Dance moves. Do what interests you! Don't spend all your time doing what you don't enjoy. 

Get some new hoops. Get rid of those old ones if they don't speak to you anymore. You're wrong about no one wanting them. Take them to your local hoop jam, or jam band, or boys and girl's club. List them on the free section of Craigslist.  Lots of people want hoops, no matter how ratty they are. Consider getting hoops you like better, hoops that feel easy for you to use, not like work. It may change your whole relationship with hooping. Also, find a friend and make a weekly hoop playdate! You'll be doing them a favor and you a favor too. And, if you need to , take a rest. I often say to myself, "I've never quit anything. I'm just not done yet." Walk away and invest in another interest in a while. But allow for the possibility of returning. It's okay to change your mind. Quitting, though, haunts us. Take a sabbatical. Pick up a new tool. Take the winter off. You don't have to make this decision now. 

Hugs and love to you sister. 

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